Depression is a Beast!

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DEPRESSION IS A BEAST, ENTERING ONE’S LIFE, TEARING IT DOWN, ATTEMPTING TO DEFEAT!

Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Also called “Major Depressive Disorder,” or “Clinical Depression,” it affects how you feel, think and behave and can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems. You may have trouble doing normal day-to-day activities, and sometimes you may feel as if life isn’t worth living. Feeling as though you’re trapped on the ocean in a dark storm screaming for someone to rescue you before the boat you’re in collapses and sinks to the bottom of the ocean.

More than just about of the blues, depression isn’t a weakness and you can’t simply “snap out” of it. Depression may require long-term treatment. But don’t get discouraged. Most people with depression feel better with medication, psychotherapy or both.

For many people with depression, symptoms usually are severe enough to cause noticeable problems in day-to-day activities, such as work, school, social activities or relationships with others. Some people may feel generally miserable or unhappy without really knowing why.

Symptoms

Although depression may occur only once in your life, people typically have multiple episodes. During these episodes, symptoms occur most of the day, nearly every day and may include:

Feelings of sadness, tearfulness, emptiness or hopelessness
Angry outbursts, irritability or frustration, even over small matters
Loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities, such as sex, hobbies or sports
Sleep disturbances, including insomnia or sleeping too much
Tiredness and lack of energy, so even small tasks take extra effort
Reduced appetite and weight loss or increased cravings for food and weight gain
Anxiety, agitation or restlessness
Slowed thinking, speaking or body movements
Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, fixating on past failures or self-blame
Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things
Frequent or recurrent thoughts of death, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts or suicide
Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches.

Symptoms of depression in older adults

Depression is not a normal part of growing older, and it should never be taken lightly. Unfortunately, depression often goes undiagnosed and untreated in older adults, and they may feel reluctant to seek help. Symptoms of depression may be different or less obvious in older adults, such as:

Memory difficulties or personality changes
Physical aches or pain
Fatigue, loss of appetite, sleep problems or loss of interest in sex — not caused by a medical condition or medication
Often wanting to stay at home, rather than going out to socialize or doing new things
Suicidal thinking or feelings, especially in older men.

Signs that it’s time to seek help from a doctor:

If you feel depressed, make an appointment to see your doctor or mental health professional as soon as you can. If you’re reluctant to seek treatment, talk to a friend or loved one, any health care professional, a faith leader, or someone else you trust.

Call for emergency help:

If you think you may hurt yourself or attempt suicide, call 911 or your local emergency number immediately.

Also, consider these options if you’re having suicidal thoughts:

Call your doctor or mental health professional.
Call a suicide hotline number — in the U.S., call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). Use that same number and press “1” to reach the Veterans Crisis Line.
Reach out to a close friend or loved one.
Contact a minister, spiritual leader or someone else in your faith community.
If you have a loved one who is in danger of suicide or has made a suicide attempt, make sure someone stays with that person. Call 911 or your local emergency number immediately. Or, if you think you can do so safely, take the person to the nearest hospital emergency room.

For those of us who suffer from depression, it’s nothing to be embarrassed about and we should understand that there are professional’s out there who are trained and can assist with this common disorder that has been around from the beginning of time. Depression is nothing new, it’s just something that many have tried sweeping under the rug and not talking about. It’s out in the open now and people are discussing it more and more, because it’s affecting more and more people in this world.

Many blessings to all and I hope this helps at least one person who reads it!

When did Working an Honest Job Become a Shameful Thing?

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It seems that every time you watch the news, log into social media or turn on the radio, you are hearing more stories of individuals who feel it’s their job and duty to either body shame another, call others names based on their skin color, religion, financial status and now we have people shaming an actor for taking a job to supplement his income while he’s acting. An honest living to pay the bills and keep food on the table for his family, but he has a photo taken of him working and plastered on social media and people start shaming and attacking him for working an honest job.

I don’t understand what this world is coming to, there’s way too much name-calling, disrespecting and humiliating one another and it seems to be getting worse than better. You don’t see people shaming the burglars, drug dealers, shoplifters and gangsters out on the streets about the lives they live and what they consider their jobs.  This is not a representation of what and who we are as people and sure isn’t making a positive impact on our young children who are already faced with the inevitable day to day.  It doesn’t matter if one washes dishes, sweeps floors or feeds cattle to supplement their income,  as long as they are working an honest job and taking care of their families.

One of the many stories that have been circulating social media has been the one of former Cosby Show actor Geoffrey Owens working at a New Jersey Trader Joe’s supermarket. The story along with photos has garnered a strong reaction from fans and celebrities alike.

Owens is best known for playing the Huxtables’ son-in-law, Elvin Tibideaux, in the popular sitcom from 1985 to 1992. In August 2018, a customer shopping at a Trader Joe’s in New Jersey recognized him working there and took pictures of him weighing potatoes and bagging groceries.

Owens had been working at the grocery store for more than a year but had apparently kept that fact from his son. He has since quit due to the overwhelming attention that made it impossible to do his job.

“Even before the wave of support rolled in within an hour or two, he sent me a beautiful text back about how proud he was of me. I cried, I just broke down,” the actor admitted. “He felt the opposite of embarrassment. He was so proud that I had taken the job. It was beautiful.”

Naturally, after the photos went viral, they sparked outrage from many who believed Owens was being job-shamed. After the outrage, there were questions raised about just how much TV actors really make. Of course, there are some TV stars who are paid very well, many making hundreds of thousands of dollars per episode but that’s not the case with everyone, especially those who have smaller roles on the shows in which Owens did in the tv shows he appeared in.

On September, 4th, Owens appeared on Good Morning America to explain just how he felt about his picture being taken and the response he has gotten.

“I was really devastated, but the period of devastation was so short,” Owens said on the morning show as he proudly sported his Trader Joe’s name tag. “My wife and I started to read these responses from literally all over the world. Fortunately, the shame part didn’t last very long.”

He went on to say that he took the job at the grocery store because it allowed him the “flexibility” he needed to stay in the entertainment business.

Owens still acts and has been teaching acting classes for several years. He has a net worth of $300,000. In addition to his work on The Cosby Show over the years, Owens has appeared on episodes of Law & Order, Law & Order: Special Victims Unit, That’s So Raven, Boston Legal, Las Vegas, Medium, Without a Trace, Flashforward, The Secret Life of the American Teenager, It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia, and The Affair.

Owens worked at Trader Joe’s for 15 months but had to quit because of the unwanted attention, however, the company said that he is welcome to come back anytime.

Tyler Perry seems to have offered him a job. “#Geoffrey Owns I’m about to start shootings OWN’s number one drama next week! Come join us!!!” Perry tweeted on Tuesday.
I have so much respect for people who hustle between gigs. The measure of a true artist.

Aretha Franklin – The Death of the Queen of Soul

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After hearing the news of Aretha Franklin’s passing, I was among the many thousands of  people truly saddened. I like many who loved her music, spirit, strength & soulful voice find comfort in knowing she is now at peace and in a much better place filled with beauty, love and no longer in pain.
Aretha is one of the talented singers that I grew up listening to and was inspired by. She with her strong, harmonious voice knew how to reach deep inside the depths of her soul and pull out the many feelings each of us may have been feeling at the time we sat and listened to her songs.
Franklin was born in Memphis on March 25, 1942. Her family moved to Detroit when she was 5 years old, and her mother, Barbara, died shortly before Franklin’s 10th birthday
She was strong and managed to triumph and carry on after the death of her father; Clarence LaVaughn “C. L.” Franklin. Mr. Franklin was a preacher at Detroit’s New Bethel Baptist Church where Aretha sang in the choir in her younger years.

CHILDREN: Edward FranklinClarence FranklinKecalf Cunningham & Ted White Jr.

SPOUSES: Glynn Turman (m. 1978-1984)Ted White (m. 1961-1969)

Glynn Turman, who was married to Franklin from 1978 to 1984, was joined by Stevie Wonder for a visit Tuesday. The actor said his former wife was ‘strong until the very end’ before her death that left millions of fans devastated all over the world.

Women fell in love with the songs RESPECT and the song became an anthem for women everywhere.  Natural Woman made women feel as though their natural beauty could shine through and they didn’t have to be afraid to show it. You could always leave it to Aretha to challenge what one may have thought of as the Norm and give us much style,  grace, beauty, strength & courage. Although her life was not always easy, she still gave us the chills with her dynamite voice and her way of bringing a song, making it her own and leaving the audience captivated.  Her special gift  was more about wringing profound emotion from a song lyric than about vocal gymnastics!

Aretha Franklin’s family has publicly  emphasized that the singer’s funeral is a private event. While some public seating may ultimately become available for the Aug. 31 service at Greater Grace Temple, the family’s guest list is still coming together. For now, the plan remains limited to “family, friends and invited guests,” said family spokeswoman Gwendolyn Quinn.

The funeral is expected to draw many big-name entertainers and dignitaries, as Franklin is laid to rest following her death last Thursday.

A public viewing will be held Aug. 28-29 at the Charles H. Wright Museum of African American History, 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. each day.

We will all surely miss this great woman and are so thankful and grateful to her for sharing her beautiful voice & spirit with each of us!

Still in Love With You

This incredibly beautiful song speaks volumes of what Phil Lynott must have been feeling at the time he sat and wrote these lyrics.  Phil was an incredibly strong lyricist as well as singer and bassist.  Reading through the song lyrics and listening and watching as he sings this song, my heart bleeds with every word. He truly was a genius, phenomenal song writer and great musician.  Thin Lizzy will always be my favorite rock band and Phil Lynott will always be my favorite singer!

This song is on their album Nightlife which was released November 8, 1974.

Still in love with you

I think I’ll fall to pieces
If I don’t find something else to do
This sadness never ceases
I’m still in love with you

My head it keeps on reeling
It’s got me in a crazy spin
But, darling, darling, darling
Is this the end?

I’m still in love with you

They say time has a way of healing
Dries all the tears from your eyes
But, darling, it’s this empty feeling
My heart can’t disguise

After all that we’ve been through
I try my best but it’s no use
I guess I’ll keep on loving you
Is this the end?

Now that it’s all over
Woman, there’s something I think you should know
Baby, baby, think it over
Just one time before you go Call on me, baby
If there’s anything I can do for you
Call on me, baby
Help me see it through

Call on me, baby
Why don’t you call on me, baby
Oh help me see it through
I’m in love with you

Written by: Phillip Parris Lynott

“TEXAS OUR TEXAS “

As many of you know, we have entered into what is called “The Dog Days of Summer!” The temperatures here in Texas are horrendous and many have been experiencing heat strokes due to the scorching temperatures. This hasn’t stopped our homeless people from sleeping under bridges, standing with their signs on the side of the road asking for money for food or drink. My heart goes out to those with nowhere to go to stay cool and for our elderly who may not have enough air-conditioning and also to any pets who are left out doors in this scorching heat.

Construction work is everywhere in the Dallas/Fort Worth Metroplex as far as the eye can see, and contracts have to be fulfilled which means, the men and women construction workers must take every precaution available and continue working in these triple digit temperatures.

Temperatures have been sky rocketing up into 109 & 110 degrees, which is even too hot to get out in the swimming pool until later in the evening, but while driving and running errands or on my way to work, I still see people out walking the dog or jogging for exercise. The car is terribly hot when you first enter and takes awhile to cool off before you start feeling the coolness from the air-conditioner.  I was born and raised in Texas and still haven’t adapted to this heat.  I am not a fan of  Texas summers at all, but I do what I have to do to manage.

What a great time to be in the Heating/Air-conditioning business. This is the life we live here in Texas and although we love our state, our steers, longhorns, State Bird (Mockingbird) and bluebonnets and are very proud to live here, for people such as myself, I will sure be happy when these sultry hot days are over and fall & winter visit again!

Here is a little something to leave each of you with:

“Texas, Our Texas,” the official state song of Texas, was adopted by the Legislature in 1929 after being selected in a state-wide competition. It was composed by William J. Marsh of Fort Worth. The lyrics were written by Marsh and Gladys Yoakum Wright.

Texas, Our Texas

Texas, Our Texas! all hail the mighty State!
Texas, Our Texas! so wonderful so great!
Boldest and grandest, withstanding ev’ry test
O Empire wide and glorious, you stand supremely blest.
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Texas, O Texas! your freeborn single star,
Sends out its radiance to nations near and far,
Emblem of Freedom! it set our hearts aglow,
With thoughts of San Jacinto and glorious Alamo.
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Texas, dear Texas! from tyrant grip now free,
Shines forth in splendor, your star of destiny!
Mother of heroes, we come your children true,
Proclaiming our allegiance, our faith, our love for you.

Chorus

God bless you Texas! And keep you brave and strong,
That you may grow in power and worth, throughout the ages long.
God bless you Texas! And keep you brave and strong,
That you may grow in power and worth, throughout the ages long.

 

“THIN LIZZY”

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You can know that the final show is coming up, and prepare yourself for it mentally, but when it finally occurs, it's like a dream. You stand there feeling the love the audience has for you, and you think, 'Is this really going to end? - Phil Lynott

As a follow up to my previous post about rediscovering Thin Lizzy and front man Phil Parris Lynott all over again, I have been listening to their songs more than ever for the past few weeks and falling in love all over again! Something that is puzzling me though is how could I have been such a huge fan of theirs but not know until a few weeks ago that Phil was dead and has been dead for over 32 years? The only thing I can think of is as I grew older and became a mother, life happened and I was so involved with my children and my studies that I lost track; but 32 years of not knowing? Maybe I did know at the time but was so involved with making sure my children were well taken care of that I didn’t have time to really elaborate on it. Marriage, children, work, college, life, etc., is quite a lot on people and that’s the only explanation I have.

I do know it hit me really hard a few weeks ago as I pulled them up on YouTube and started listening and seeing his last interview, the interviews with band members regarding his death, his statue and grave along with the interview of his mother, Philomena and his then wife, Caroline. I went into total shock and cried. How can this be that this many years has gone by and I started back tracking my own life and examining it and the only thing I can honestly come up with is that Life Happened and I was so engrossed with my sons and education, that somehow it was pushed out of my memory. “Still unsure.” The fact is, I know now and am savoring each and every song and the memories of this band. I do realize that in the Unites States, they were not as huge as they should have been, so there were only a few of their songs on the radio and/or MTV.

The sultry, soulful vocals of lead singer Phil Lynott with that beautiful Irish accent gives an extra bang to each song sang. His charismatic charm and the way he worked the crowd and just oozed with sex appeal was the icing on the cake. Brian Robertson & Scott Gorham were known to work the crowd as well.

The instrumental talents of each member brought a fiery explosion of excitement to each performance. The members of the band changed throughout the years, giving way to other performers having an opportunity to play and tour with this great band. Many talented artists have expressed their sincere gratitude to Phil Lynott for giving them the opportunity to play with Thin Lizzy and his other bands.

Original band (1969–1983)

The original band was led and run by writer, singer and bassist (and occasional acoustic guitar player) Phil Lynott. Thin Lizzy disbanded when he decided to end the group.

Excerpts taken from: http://www.thefullwiki.org

Phil Lynott – Founder, Bass guitar, lead vocals, acoustic guitar

Brian Downey – Drums, percussion

Eric Bell – Guitar & backing vocals

Eric Wrixon – Keyboards & backing vocals

Gary Moore – Guitar & backing vocals

Scott Gorham – Guitar & backing vocals

Brian Robertson – Guitar & backing vocals

Snowey White – Guitar

Darren Wharton – Keyboards & backing vocals

John Sykes – Guitar

Songs I’ve been listening to:

Boys are back in Town, Black Rose, Emerald, Still in Love with You, Got to give it up, The King’s Call, Philomena, Bad Reputation, One Wish, The Sun Goes Down, Sarah, Cowboy Song, Jailbreak, Old Town, The Rocker, The Spirit of Man, Ode to a Black Man, The Rocker, Thunder and Lightening, Angel of Death, Chinatown, Hollywood (Down on your Luck), Don’t Believe A Word, Dancing In The Moonlight (It’s Caught Me In It’s Spotlight), Rosalie, Waiting For An Alibi, Do Anything You Want To, Somebody Else’s Dream, Chinatown, Mexican Blood, Killer On The Loose, Whisky In The Jar, Out In The Fields, Nineteen, (Gary Moore & Phil Lynott), Pariesiene Walkways (Gary Moore & Phil Lynott), Wild One, Fighting My Way Back, Showdown, Dear Miss Lonely Hearts, That woman’s gonna break your heart, Can’t get away, A Night in the Life of a Blues Singer & The Man’s a Fool.

It’s incredibly amazing how Phil was able to write so many songs, perform these songs plus find time to work with other great artists like Huey Lewis, Mark Knopfler as well as countless others. It has been so great to have the ability to listen as well as watch this amazing band perform and Phil sing these songs, weather it be with his band T.L., solo or with the other bands he formed. I can’t help but say that I did experience great sadness listening to his voice and knowing this incredibly gifted, talented and genius of a singer, songwriter, poet and artist is no longer here in the land of the living.

Songs, “One Wish, The Sun goes Down and Still in Love with You,” have a way of tugging and pulling at your heart as you listen to Lynott’s sultry, melodious voice and feel through his vocals the pain he must have felt while writing each lyric.

With that being said, I must say, that Gary Moore is much missed as well and both he and Phil Lynott made huge contributions to the music industry and the hearts of many fan. These two men and Thin Lizzy as a whole, are responsible for so many realizing their dream of becoming a performer. We can never forget Gary Moore’s bluesy voice and his ability to bring out the goosebumps on each and every listener as he played his guitar and sang. The death of these two men were a huge loss for the music industry and there will never be another Phil & Gary!

A famous quote from Phil Lynott: “I tasted freedom and I really liked it.”

I will continue listening to Thin Lizzy and will hopefully one day fulfill my dream of traveling to Dublin, Ireland to visit the grave and statue of the late, great Philip Parris Lynott. He has to be smiling upon his beautiful, strong & precious mother who has worked diligently to ensure his legacy remains intact and alive. I can’t even imagine the grief she experienced losing her son, and I can’t forget his ex-wife, Caroline who suffered a great loss as well and had to raise both daughters on her own without the love and support of their father.

One thing is for sure. Thin Lizzy will live on forever in the hearts and minds of their fans!

Philip Lynott: Born: August 20, 1949 – Died: January 4, 1986

Gary Moore: Born: April 4, 1952 – Died: February 6, 2011

Rock on and rest in peace brothers!

It’s Like a Heatwave

Everyone who knows anything about Texas knows that it comes with some extreme heat in the summertime. This summer has been no different. We have had temperatures in the three digits and nights in the smoldering upper 90’s as late as eight and nine o’clock at night. Running the air conditioning is a must and never mind what the electric bill is when received; because without it, a human being would not be able to stay in their home comfortably.

My thoughts are always with the elderly who are afraid to turn their air on in the summer or don’t have air conditioners to turn on, the animals living out of doors and the many homeless people living under the bridges and sleeping on sidewalks. I know for myself, I have to have air and it has gotten to the point now that I am considered middle-aged, I have to have not only my central air but a fan beside my bed as well. Oh, the joys of aging and going through the midlife crisis! It is what it is, but I sure will be so happy to see some cooler weather.

It has been wonderful getting out in the swimming pool and having my sons and their families over and watching my grandchildren have a great time swimming. While driving around town or through not only my neighborhood but others, people are doing what they have to do to stay cool. It takes me back to the tiny country town I grew up in out in West Texas. There was a man with a snow cone stand and he had to have had the best snow cones in the world, or so it seemed in those days. His machine shaved the ice so fine that it was almost the consistency of real snow. The cones were large and the syrup came in all flavors and was just mind-blowing delicious! Of course, I know that there are snow cone stands these days with modern technology that can shave ice so fine that it actually melts in the mouth, but back in the late 60’s, 70’s & 80’s this was great for that time and for a small town like the one I am speaking of.

Well, summer will stick around a little while longer, hopefully, I will get some good fishing in, but I won’t be doing any while the temperatures are in the triple digits. I am patiently awaiting fall and winter.

The Dog Days of Summer

The Dog days, a name for the most sultry period of summer, from about July 3rd to August 11th. Named in early times by observers in countries bordering the Mediterranean, the period was reckoned as extending from 20 days before to 20 days after the conjunction of Sirius (the dog star) and the sun. In the latitude of the Mediterranean region, this period coincided with hot days that were plagued with disease and discomfort. The time of conjunction varies with difference in latitude, and because of the precession of the equinoxes it changes gradually over long periods in all latitudes.

Due to a very slow wobble of Earth’s axis, the Dog Star now seems to rise later than it did in ancient times. Its ascension no longer coincides with the start of the Nile flood (which does not occur anyway, because the river is now controlled by the Aswan Dam), but Sirius still makes its appearance during hot summer days.

Old-timers believed that rainfall on the dog days was a bad omen, as foretold in this verse:
Dog Days bright and clear
Indicate a happy year;
But when accompanied by rain,
For better times, our hopes are vain.

Dog Days are approaching; you must, therefore, make both hay and haste while the Sun shines, for when old Sirius takes command of the weather, he is such an unsteady, crazy dog, there is no dependence upon him.

The Old Farmer’s Almanac, 1817

Discovering Thin Lizzy all Over Again and Frontman the Late Phil Lynott August 20, 1949 – January 4, 1986

 

I am a huge music fan and love music of many genres. I am especially intrigued by music from the 60’s, 70’s & the 80’s. I listen to a wide variety of music and at one time in my life chased the dream of being a singer. I still love singing and writing song lyrics.

Over the weekend I was relaxing watching YouTube videos and ran across a video by Thin Lizzy. Well, I was born in 1963, so I love music from that era and have always loved “The Boys are Back in Town,” but had no idea that the band was from Dublin Ireland and who the members where. As I listened to the boys are back in town, it brought back so many fond memories of growing up in the small West Texas town that I grew up in as well as my many friends. I continued listening and wanted more, so I started listening to more of their songs and ran across videos of them singing live and saw Phil Lynott their lead singer. I knew his beautiful voice but had never seen him and was drawn to him and the other members of the band. They were an outstanding, hard rocking band and he was an incredible lyricist. I listened to many of their songs as I watched their videos and started watching videos that his beautiful mother, Philomena made after his death.

Philip Parris Lynott (20 August 1949 – 4 January 1986) was an Irish musician and songwriter. His most commercially successful group was Thin Lizzy, of which he was a founding member, the principal songwriter, lead vocalist and bassist. He was known for his distinctive plectrum-based style on the bass, and for his imaginative lyrical contributions including working class tales and numerous characters drawn from personal influences and Celtic culture. Excerpts are taken from Wikipedia.

They sang a song called “The Sun Goes Down.” What a truly amazing song, with lyrics that gave me goosebumps. His deep Baritone voice and the band’s choice in music was hauntingly beautiful. It’s so sad that he and many of our great musician’s have passed away due to drug use. The song made me wonder if he were making reference to himself and his life. I don’t know, what I do know is that he left behind a great legacy with lots of wonderful songs for us all to enjoy and fans who still remember where they were when a new Thin Lizzy song played on the radio.

I admire his mother, “Philomena Lynott’s” courage, strength, and determination to ensure her son’s legacy is kept alive in a dignified manner. He has status dedicated to him, wax figures in his memory. He left behind two beautiful daughters who are now adults with their own families but still work diligently to keep their father’s memory alive.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phil_Lynott

You Listen-Poem

You listen as rain pounds the rooftops & window pane

Leaving wet traces behind as you peacefully fall asleep.

You listen as the t.v. & radio play favorite tunes and movies.

While birds, locust & crickets together sing sweet melodies.

You listen as the howling wind whips through the trees.

While sounds of rustling leaves create perfect harmony.

You listen as the ocean’s waves sway to a gentle breeze.

While friends confide their fears, hopes, and dreams.

You listen as dog’s bark protecting our home at night.

As you awaken to another day of great possibilities.

You listen patiently to so many things;

But why my love will you not listen to me?

Jasmine D. Parker

HAPPY FATHERS DAY!

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Father’s Day is a celebration honoring fathers and celebrating fatherhood, paternal bonds, and the influence of fathers in society. It is celebrated on various days in many parts of the world, most commonly in the months of March, April, and June. Here in the U.S., Father’s Day is celebrated every third Sunday in June, falling on this Sunday, June 17 this year.

The nation’s first Father’s Day was celebrated on June 19, 1910, in the state of Washington. However, it was not until 1972–58 years after President Woodrow Wilson made Mother’s Day official–that the day honoring fathers became a nationwide holiday in the United States. – *excerpts from History.com

This is a day honoring fathers met with resistance at first, with many men scoffing at the holiday’s sentimental attempts to domesticate manliness with flowers and gift-giving, or they derided the creation of such holidays as a commercial gimmick to sell more products–often paid for by the father himself.

This holiday is actually a day to commemorate and honor the incredible men who stood up to the plate, took responsibility for their children and families and established bonds that will live on long after they’re gone. Fathers around the world making a difference in their children’s lives deserve to be honored. Dad, you are your child’s first HERO!

Happy fathers day to both of my sons who are incredible fathers to my grandchildren.

A very special Happy fathers day to my husband and my own dad in heaven.

Whether you plan to get him a new neck tie, a power tool, take him out for a nice dinner or just send a card, let Dad know how much you appreciate him. Please join me in wishing all dads around the world a very happy day. It is my prayer that it is filled with love and adoration from your family and friends. Let’s also celebrate those that are father figures – Godfathers, uncles, coaches, or a close family friend. A very special honor to our Military Dad’s who are unable to spend this special day with their families. We appreciate and honor you all on this day!

Not a Good Week to Remember!

Often times it’s hard to watch the news.  There are so many stories that don’t make the news that would enlighten so many and bring hope to those who believe there is no hope left.  Then we have the sad & shocking stories that do make the headlines that leave us all in disbelief and feeling like we just took a trip into the Twilight Zone.

Tuesday with the death of Kate Spade hitting the airways and the sad news that she committed suicide. Then Friday rolls around and we hear the news that Anthony Bourdain has died and he also committed suicide. These two sad stories brought so much sadness to so many people.  You could hear the pain in the celebrities that were interviewed and read the pain in those who wrote statements and fans who wrote comments on different articles.

I have no idea if Kate or Anthony knew one another, but the situations surrounding their deaths are still sad all the same.

Not only were they both celebrities; but they were around the same age.  Spade was 55, and Bourdain was 61; both with different careers and fan-based demographics.

The media has not released whether or not Anthony left a suicide note or not.  At this time it looks as though no note was left so that still leaves the question as to why he felt so lost that he couldn’t reach out for help?  Many people wear a mask and are one way around people or the camera if they are famous and a complete other way when they are alone. The Great Coverup!  As sad as it is, two great people are gone suddenly and two families are devastated and two daughters are left without their parents.  Kate’s daughter cannot go talk to her mother when older about boys, her Senior Prom and all the things young girls and mother’s talk about or help her daughter prepare for her wedding when older.  Anthony’s daughter cannot go to him and discuss boys and the fact that a boy wants to take her out or to Senior Prom and he won’t be there to walk his daughter down the isle one day when she gets married.

Common Denominators:

Both highly successful in their careers and both left behind young children to forever be confused as to why their parents chose to leave this world the way they did; and questioning, if it might have been something they did or if their parents loved truly loved them.

Kate Spade did leave a note telling her daughter how much she loved her and ending it with ask Daddy. The note only leaves more questions than answers for a young child and who knows if her daddy really has the correct answers or not?  The last I read Kate’s husband stated that she was suffering from depression.  Let’s just hope he and the rest of the family can provide this beautiful child with the love, attention, and therapy she is definitely going to need to pull her life together.  My heart goes out to them all.

Often times when a person commits suicide, they have been contemplating it and maybe have even tried and failed.  When celebrities take their lives, it usually creates a spike in suicidal thoughts and actions. Fans and everyday people look at Celebrities as individuals who have it all together and are living the good life that many of us would love to live.  Many of us forget that these are just ordinary individuals who may have careers on television and are in the limelight, but they are human just as we are, with emotions and problems that they face on a daily basis with deadlines to meet, bills and taxes to pay as we do.  These people have marital problems, family issues, and have an image they must try to live up to for the public.

There has been an increase in suicide in the last few years and the age of the victims are getting younger and younger.

Risk Factors According to the CDC:

More than half of the Americans studied by the CDC who died by suicide did not have a mental health condition. Substance abuse, financial stress and relationship problems or loss are all factors that contribute to suicide risk, data shows. Suicide remains the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S., according to the CDC.

Questioning suicide? Call someone, anyone: A friend, neighbor, family member, religious figure, hospital, doctor, mental health specialist, the police department or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

Anthony Michael Bourdain – The Death of a Great Man. June 25, 1956 – June 8, 2018

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Anthony Michael Bourdain was born on June 25, 1956, to Pierr & Gladys Bourdain in New York City.  He was an American celebrity chef, author, travel Documentarian, and international culture, cuisine, and the human condition.  He was noted by popular sources as one of the popular sources as one of the most influential chefs in the world.

Bourdain was a 1978 graduate of the Culinary Institute of America and a veteran of numerous professional kitchens, including many years spent as executive chef at Brasserie Les Halles. He first became known for his 2000 bestselling book Kitchen Confidential: Adventures in the Culinary Underbelly. His first food and world-travel television show were A Cook’s Tour, which ran for 35 episodes on the Food Network from 2002 through 2003. In 2005 he began hosting the Travel Channel’s culinary and cultural adventure programs Anthony Bourdain: No Reservations (2005–2012) and The Layover (2011–2013). In 2013, he switched to CNN to host Anthony Bourdain: Parts Unknown.

Though best known for his culinary achievements and television presentations, along with several books on food and cooking and travel adventures, Bourdain’s lesser-known writings include both fiction and historical nonfiction.

I remember watching my first episode of No Reservations back in 2010 and The Layover which premiered November 21, 2011. I was immediately hooked on both shows and Bourdain’s charismatic personality and no-nonsense approach.

He leaves to mourn his death his daughter Ariane, who was born in 2007 to Bourdain and Ottavia Busia, his parents, Gladys Bourdain & Pierre Bourdain, his younger brother, Christopher and his partner Asia Argento.

Many friends and celebrities have given their condolences and shared many fond memories of the handsome, colorful chef that we all had the pleasure of enjoying and traveling via television each week.

He will live on in our hearts and many prayers go out to his family & friends!

If you or anyone you know may be contemplating suicide and need someone to talk to, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ‘1-800-273-TALK (8255 …(1-800-273-8255) or visit suicidepreventionlifeline.org..

Today is My Birthday and the Anniversary of the Death of My Husband

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Grieving the loss of a spouse is hard. Death, regardless of the details, can be devastating to those left behind. The loss becomes greater when it occurs on a special day such as the surviving spouses birthday. I am writing this because my husband passed away 6 years ago today, on my birthday while talking to me on the telephone.

Stan, my husband was an incredible man and human being. He had a way of looking at a person and peering deep into their soul and finding good within. All who knew Stan loved him and his amazing personality. I tell people he and I fell in love over Sirius XM Radio.

Stan loved Sirius XM radio and had one in his vehicle and another for the house. When he and I met and started dating, it was unconventional for some but a sign of the times for others. We met online, clicked, started dating and eventually married. It was a match made in perfect heaven. I didn’t really know anything about Sirius radio, so he used it to his advantage asking me what type of music I liked listening to and programming it into his radio. We would ride around talking, listening to the radio and just enjoy our time together. Talking about finding love on a two-way street! We fell madly in love! After dating almost a year, he asked me to marry him, I said yes, we were married and our lives were filled with bliss. Our families blended very well and we created a love haven and our marriage left an incredibly positive mark on all who met us. One thing about my husband, he truly loved me, supported me, encouraged me as I loved, supported and encouraged him. We lifted each other up daily. I shared my passion and love for writing with him and he thought it was just the coolest thing and was most encouraging. He loved sitting and/or lying in bed reading things that I had written and would encourage me to go further.

My husband was a truck driver and I enjoyed traveling the road with him. We traveled many places and were able to connect to one another one a much deeper level. Having met so many people out there on the road, I can truly understand why men and women love the trucker life.

June, 4th, 2012, I was not out on the road with Stan, because I had started back working. He and I had talked several times that day and he jokingly was teasing me about getting older as this was my birthday. We laughed and talked and told one another we would talk again when I got off work to discuss what we would do to celebrate on the weekend when he came home.

When I got off work, he called and I talked to him while driving home, but during our conversation, the call dropped. I just figured it dropped because he went through a dead zone and after trying him back and no response, I just figured he would call me back when he was able to get a better and stronger signal and drove on home.

Later after showering and climbing into bed to do some writing, I saw the State Troopers pull up in front of my house. The one on the passenger’s side pointed to their computer and then to our house. They both exited the vehicle, put their hats on their heads and proceeded to walk up our sidewalk. I put my robe on, they rang the doorbell and I answered the door. The officer standing closest to the door asked me if I were Mrs. Parker and I stated yes and he then asked if I knew Stan Parker?, and I said yes; But as I said yes, I started shaking my head saying no, no, and tears flooded down my face as I started screaming and instinctively knew my sweet husband was gone. The officers confirmed that he had passed away while driving down the freeway. Onlookers stated that his truck slowed down, veered to the right, ran off the highway and through a bobwire fence and came to a stop in a hay field. The troopers both stated that my husband was deceased when the EMS arrived on the scene.

It was confirmed that my husband passed away from a massive heart attack caused by degenerative heart disease. To lose my husband was hard enough, but to lose him the same day of my birthday, became almost too much for me to bear. The pain and heartache of losing him caused me to sink into a dark depression.

The pain of having to tell the children he was gone and to put one foot in front of the other was harder, but it had to be done. I am so grateful to the family and friends who were there for me in my time of need. I truly am thankful for people who dedicate their lives to counseling those going down the dark path of Grief!

Through my faith, I found the courage to hold my head up high again, love myself, love life and continue to pour my feelings and emotions into writing. I had no idea that there are so many people in this world who are in such a deep state of Grief. I meet people at the mall, grocery stores and other places who start talking to me because they feel something or see something in me that makes it genuinely easy for them to talk to me.

My name is Jasmine Parker, today, June 4th is my birthday and I remember the love that I lost on this day 6 years ago. My husband, Stanly W. Parker. One day we will see each other again, but as selfless as you were in life, I know you would want me to find love again and live a wholesome life!

Grieving the Loss of a Beloved Pet

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We’ve all heard these various animal quotes:
“A Dog is a Man’s best friend,”
“Outside of a book, a dog is Man’s best friend.”
“An animal’s eyes have the power to speak a great language.”
“We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals.”

These are humorous quotes and when you take a look at your beloved pet, you can truly see why these quotes were created.  Animals can truly become a best friend and a huge part of one’s family.

The love and bond shared between a family and their pet, is truly unbreakable. A pet is truly a member of the family and often times pets accompany their families on vacations, to the pet stores as well as their daily walks in the neighborhood & parks.  A pet can detect when someone is ill and have often detected when a person was having a seizure.  Dogs have been known to assist the blind, bring joy and happiness to the elderly, sniff out cancer, illegal drugs as well as assist in finding missing people or recovering the bodies of individuals who have been murdered.

Animals are a huge asset to society and love their human families as much as they are loved by their human families;  But what happens when that beloved pet becomes ill or passes away suddenly?  The trauma of the loss of a beloved pet can be as devastating as the loss of a human family member. The passing of a pet can bring out emotions one never knew existed and the loss can send that pet owner or pet family into a journey of grief and mourning.  The pain is real and for anyone to say that it was just a dog or just an animal, can be very insensitive to the grieving pet owner.

If children are involved, it is best to sit down with them and break the news of their beloved pet gently and allow them to be a part of the going home ceremony depending on their age.

These days there are pet cemetery’s, headstones and grave markers for pets.  Many may find themselves needing to reach out to support groups and/or therapist to help with their healing process. Going out and buying or adopting another pet right away,  may just be what some families or individuals need to help with their healing process, but for others, they may feel it’s too early and require more time to heal.

One thing is for sure, pets are amazing,  loving and faithful!

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You will know Your Loved One’s in Heaven

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“At the resurrection, people will neither marry, nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven.” (Matthew 22:30)

We won’t be married, but will know our loved ones in heaven!

Just to know we will know our loved ones in heaven is an incredible thought!

We will see those smiling faces again and have the ability to touch and hug our loved ones again.  When each of us arrives in heaven, it will not matter to us that marriage does not exist; but just whom will be at the core of our relationships, and how will those relationships be affected?

Even though our Bible says we won’t be married in heaven, it will never take away or detract us from our joy.  We will still see and know our spouses and other loved ones who passed before us.  “Amazing!”  Most importantly, we will know and be with Jesus Christ forever.

I look forward to seeing my late husband, my grandparents, aunts, and uncles and I also look forward to seeing my friends who have past.

I spend time talking to God daily and I thank him for allowing me to see another day.

Each day is a blessing and I feel empowered as I share the Grief Journey that I started almost 6 years ago with others.

 

The Assumption that Makes Grief Hard

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Many people throughout the years and within different cultures may have assumed and believed that life on Earth would be easy and pain-free.

The fact of the matter is; that is not the case at all.  We shouldn’t give up hope of a pain – free life and/or existence, because God has promised each of us a better place for those who trust in Christ as Saviour and encourages each of us to console ourselves with that very HOPE.

We should all remain encouraged. This journey we’re on may be a long, tough one, but it’s one that we all can conquer and know that there are greater things waiting for us at the finish line!

In The Orchard

“I thought you loved me.” “No, it was only fun.”

“When we stood there, closer than all?” “Well, the harvest moon

“Was shining and queer in your hair, and it turned my head.”

“That made you?” “Yes.” “Just the moon and the light it made

“Under the tree?” “Well, your mouth, too.” “Yes, my mouth?”
“And the quiet there that sang like the drum in the booth.
“You shouldn’t have danced like that.” “Like what?” “So close,
“With your head turned up, and the flower in your hair, a rose
“That smelt all warm.” “I loved you. I thought you knew
“I wouldn’t have danced like that with any but you.”
“I didn’t know. I thought you knew it was fun.”
“I thought it was love you meant.” “Well, it’s done.” “Yes, it’s done.
“I’ve seen boys stone a blackbird, and watched them drown
“A kitten … it clawed at the reeds, and they pushed it down
“Into the pool while it screamed. Is that fun, too?”
“Well, boys are like that … Your brothers…” “Yes, I know.
“But you, so lovely and strong! Not you! Not you!”
“They don’t understand it’s cruel. It’s only a game.”
“And are girls fun, too?” “No, still in a way it’s the same.
“It’s queer and lovely to have a girl…” “Go on.”
“It makes you mad for a bit to feel she’s your own,
“And you laugh and kiss her, and maybe you give her a ring,
“But it’s only in fun.” “But I gave you everything.”
“Well, you shouldn’t have done it. You know what a fellow thinks
“When a girl does that.” “Yes, he talks of her over his drinks
“And calls her a—” “Stop that now. I thought you knew.”
“But it wasn’t with anyone else. It was only you.”
“How did I know? I thought you wanted it too.
“I thought you were like the rest. Well, what’s to be done?”
“To be done?” “Is it all right?” “Yes.” “Sure?” “Yes, but why?”
“I don’t know. I thought you were going to cry.
“You said you had something to tell me.” “Yes, I know.
“It wasn’t anything really … I think I’ll go.”
“Yes, it’s late. There’s thunder about, a drop of rain
“Fell on my hand in the dark. I’ll see you again
“At the dance next week. You’re sure that everything’s right?”
“Yes.” “Well, I’ll be going.” “Kiss me…” “Good night.” …
“Good night.”

`By Muriel Stuart

Dirge Without Music

I am not resigned to the shutting away of loving hearts in the hard ground.

So it is, and so it will be, for so it has been, time out of mind:
Into the darkness they go, the wise and the lovely. Crowned
With lilies and with laurel they go, but I am not resigned.

Lovers and thinkers, into the earth with you.
Be one with the dull, the indiscriminate dust.
A fragment of what you felt, of what you knew,
A formula, a phrase remains,—but the best is lost.

The answers quick and keen, the honest look, the laughter, the love,—
They are gone. They are gone to feed the roses. Elegant and curled
Is the blossom. Fragrant is the blossom. I know. But I do not approve.
More precious was the light in your eyes than all the roses in the world.

Down, down, down into the darkness of the grave
Gently they go, the beautiful, the tender, the kind;
Quietly they go, the intelligent, the witty, the brave.
I know. But I do not approve. And I am not resigned.

`By Edna St. Vincent Millay

 

“ The Paradoxical Commandments”

People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.”

-Kent M. Keith

Tim Bergling, aka Avicii – 09/08/1989-04/20/2018

The music world has truly lost a talented and gifted artist and music producer.

Tim Bergling was born on September 8, 1989 to Anki Liden an actress in Stockholm, Sweden.
Better known by his stage name Avicii , was a Swedish musician, DJ, remixer and record producer.

One of the most popular DJs of the late-2000s EDM boom, Grammy-nominated Swedish producer Avicii went on to top the charts in multiple countries and tour the world with his uplifting house anthems. Born Tim Bergling in Stockholm in 1989, he began making music at the age of 16, posting his remixes in online forums of electronic music. At age 18 he was writing and remixing tracks in his bedroom and uploading them onto the Internet, which landed him to sign his first record label deal.

He took great pride in remixing tracks for Dizzee Rascal, Robyn, and also Little Boots. Bergling issued a handful of his own singles, like “Bromance” and “My Feelings for You” in 2010. “Seek Bromance” — which added the vocals of Amanda Wilson atop his earlier track — became a modest hit across Europe. However, it wasn’t until his next single, 2011’s “Levels,” that his international popularity exploded. Featuring a sample of Etta James’ “Something’s Got a Hold on Me,” the track topped dance charts across the globe and reached platinum status in at least ten countries, launching Avicii into the mainstream.

He rose to prominence in 2011 with his breakthrough single “Levels”. His debut studio album, True (2013), featured electronic music blended with elements of several music genres and received generally positive reviews from music critics. It peaked within the top ten in more than fifteen countries and topped the Australian, Swedish, Danish and US dance charts.

It was supported by the lead single “Wake Me Up”, which topped most music markets in Europe and reached number four in the US. In 2015 he released his second studio album, Stories, and in 2017 he released an EP titled Avīci (01). In 2016 he retired from touring due to health issues.

His catalog of music also included the singles “I Could Be the One” with Nicky Romero, “You Make Me”, “X You”, “Hey Brother”, “Addicted to You”, “The Days”, “The Nights”, “Waiting for Love”, “Without You” and “Lonely Together”. Bergling was nominated for Grammy Awards for his work on “Sunshine” with David Guetta in 2012 and his track “Levels” in 2013. Several music publications credit Bergling as among the DJs who ushered electronic music into Top 40 radio in the early 2010s.

Sadly Tim Bergling died on April 20, 2018 in Muscat, Oman at the age of 28.He leaves to mourne his passing, his mother, Anki Liden , siblings, Anton, Linda and David in Stockholm, Sweden.

Six days later, his family stated in an open letter that he had suffered from severe stress and mental-health issues for a number of years. The letter was widely interpreted to imply that the manner of his death was suicide.

The letter read: “Our beloved Tim was a seeker, a fragile artistic soul searching for answers to existential questions. An over-achieving perfectionist who traveled and worked hard at a pace that led to extreme stress,” read the statement, released Thursday. “When he stopped touring, he wanted to find a balance in life to be happy and be able to do what he loved most — music.”

Avicii had in the past suffered acute pancreatitis, in part due to excessive drinking. After having his gallbladder and appendix removed in 2014, he canceled a series of shows in attempt to recover.

The Swedish performer retired from performing in 2016 but still produced albums and songs.

The Music Industry has truly lost a gifted and talented artist!

{REST IN PEACE AVICII}

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Unjust Cause

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“She could almost feel him prodding her; urging her to go on. As the wails of pain and torment assulted her ears, she knew that’s exactly what she would do until the war was over and she could crawl into a quiet, dark corner and mourn for the part of her that had died with him.”
― Jaclyn A. Wilson

Prince Rogers Nelson – Our Prince 06/07/1958 – 04/21/2016

Prince Rogers Nelson was born in Minneapolis, Minnesota, to Mattie Shaw, a jazz singer, and social worker, and John L. Nelson, a lyricist, and pianist. His father’s stage name was “Prince Rogers”. His parents were both from African-American families from Louisiana. They separated during his youth, which caused him to move back and forth. Prince had a troubled relationship with his step-father which eventually caused him to run away from home.

He was adopted by the Anderson family and soon after became best friends with their son, Andre Anderson (Cymone).
Together along with Charles Smith, they joined a band called Grand Central. The band later renamed themselves Champagne and were a fairly successful live band, however soon diminished.
His early music career saw the release of Prince, Dirty Mind and Controversy, which drew attention for their fusion of religious and sexual themes. He then released the popular albums 1999 and Purple Rain, cementing his superstar status with No. 1 hits like “When Doves Cry” and “Let’s Go Crazy.” A seven-time Grammy winner, Prince had a prodigious output that included later albums like Diamonds and Pearls, The Gold Experience and Musicology. He died on April 21, 2016, from an accidental drug overdose.

Prince’s Death
On April 21, 2016, Prince was found dead at his Paisley Park compound in Minnesota. The week prior, his plane made an emergency landing and the singer was hospitalized for what was purportedly a severe case of the flu, though reports later stated that the musician was actually given a life-saving “safe shot” for a Percocet overdose. The Carver County sheriff’s department and Midwest Medical Examiner’s office launched an investigation into the cause of death. After the autopsy was performed, his remains were cremated and his close family and friends gathered for a small, private funeral on April 23.

Almost two weeks after the musician’s death, a lawyer revealed that Dr. Howard Kornfeld, a California-based physician who specializes in treatment for those dependent upon and addicted to pain medication, had been called upon by Prince’s team to aid the musician. (The performer had undergone hip surgery some years earlier and was believed to have endured recurring discomfort while giving concerts.) Kornfeld’s son had reportedly flown to Prince’s compound to initiate the recovery process and was among those who found him dead. While Prince’s state of health at the time of his death is unknown, attorney William Mauzy said the artist “was dealing with a grave medical emergency” when Kornfeld was called, as reported by The Minneapolis Star Tribune.

Prince will always be remembered as a musical genius and artist who inspired millions through his music and set an inspirational platform which others still abide by.

He was loved by so many, his death mourned by millions and his legacy will live on forever!

Barbara Bush: Phenomenal Woman!

 

The world has lost a Classy, Elegant, Beautiful and most Phenomenal woman!

Barbara Bush was born in New York City on June 8, 1925.

Her father, Marvin Pierce, was a distant descendant of 14th President of the United States Franklin  Pierce and president of the McCall Corporation, which published the well-known magazines McCall’s and Redbook. Growing up in an Episcopalian family in the bedroom community of Rye, New York, Bush was an athletic and witty child who loved — above all things — to read. She received her primary education at Rye’s Milton Public School and Rye Country Day School before going off to Ashley Hall, a boarding school in Charleston, South Carolina, in 1940.

Barbara Bush was the wife of George H. W. Bush, 41st President of the United States, and served as First Lady of the United States from 1989 to 1993.

Married to her longtime love of 73+ years, Barbara Bush once said “I don’t fear death at all, I’ve done it all”.

The mother of six children — one of whom, a daughter, Robin, died as a child from leukemia — Barbara Bush raised her fast-growing family in the 1950s and ’60s amid the post-war boom of Texas and the whirl of politics that consumed her husband.

 

“According to Time Magazine” ‘I am still old and still in love.’ Barbara Bush paid tribute her husband a month before her death.

Even though English professor Randa Jarrar, wrote and I quote:

“Barbara Bush was a generous and smart and amazing racist who, along with her husband, raised a war criminal,” Jarrar tweeted .

“Fuck outta here with your nice words.”

I do not and will never agree with her comments, but of course, they are protected under the Freedom of Speech.

I absolutely loved and respected Barbara Bush and am saddened by the negative comments.

My own personal opinion of Barbara Bush is: She was a Unique Woman, a woman who was absolutely phenomenal, she did not bite her tongue and said what she meant and meant what she said, disciplined her sons, and grandchildren and raised them on Christian morals and standards.

Barbara Bush was said to love living in Texas.

She and her husband, George H. W. Bush shared a love for one another than can teach others of not only how to be a spouse, but a best friend, confidant, patriot and humanitarian.

This woman brought levity, love, and literacy to millions of people as well as her own family. Not only did she keep them laughing and on their toes, she also kept them studying and reaching for higher grounds. She was the true Matriarch of the Bush family and they along with millions of others will truly miss her.

Letter from Heaven: A Poem

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When tomorrow starts without me,
and I’m not here to see,
if the sun should rise and find your
eyes, filled with tears for me.

I wish so much you wouldn’t cry,
the way you did today,
while thinking of the many things
we didn’t get to say.

I know how much you love me,
as much as I love you,
and each time you think of me,
I know you’ll miss me too.

When tomorrow starts without me,
don’t think we’re far apart,
for every time you think of me,
I’m right there in your heart.

`Author Unknown

As I Grow- A Poem

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As I grow to know you more and more,
your strong, masculine beauty I adore.
Your strength and grace is so amazing,
my life so great now interchanging.

Our lives together have grown so great,
my feelings will never be of any debate.
My actions are truly louder than words,
saying only I like you would be totally absurd.

Your chiseled face shows strength and wisdom
with dark eyes to match from another kingdom
You say my lips are soft as a rose.
I thank our father in heaven, for me you, he chose.

Your beautiful, kind heart I will never take for granted,
bathing in these feelings, our lives truly enchanted.
My prayer is for our love to grow stronger each day.

Will my love for you stop growing?
To this, I say “NO WAY!”

~Jasmine D. Parker
02/19/2013 

 

Perhaps

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Perhaps some day the sun will shine again,
And I shall see that still the skies are blue,
And feel one more I do not live in vain,
Although bereft of you.

Perhaps the golden meadows at my feet,
Will make the sunny hours of spring seem gay,
And I shall find the white May-blossoms sweet,
Though You have passed away.

Perhaps the summer woods will shimmer bright,
And crimson roses once again be fair,
And autumn harvest fields a rich delight,
Although You are not there.

But though kind Time may many joys renew,
There is one greatest joy I shall not know
Again, because my heart for loss of You
Was broken, long ago.”

~Vera Brittain

The Loss

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For those of us who have ever walked through the Valley of the death of a loved one, we may feel after the first few months, that we can begin to move on with our feelings and emotions. However, we soon find ourselves grieving as we did before because the feelings are still present in our lives.
Often times, Family and Friends assume that a grieving person is moving on with their lives and putting everything in the past. No one can even begin to gauge how another person is feeling. Our Grief Journey is our own personal journey and everyone grieves differently.
Understanding our own Grief will also be beneficial as to the types of help we allow Family, Friends and our counselors to provide for us.
They don’t know how we are feeling until we open up and tell them.
There will be days we don’t feel like talking on the telephone and shouldn’t feel guilty because it is normal.
It is a good idea to journal our thoughts and feelings. This is a great way to track our progress. The grief journey is not an easy one, but it is one that we all must go through at some point in our lives and when we continue to have faith that we will be fine and God will provide comfort, healing, and support as we walk down our dark path of grief.

They Refused to Leave!

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Heavy rain and flooding are expected to continue throughout the weekend, and local officials said hundreds in areas hit by Florence still need rescue.
Mandatory evacuations were ordered ahead of the storms landfall in parts of North and South Carolina, though many people chose to remain in their homes for reasons ranging from financial concerns and the need to care for pets that they may not have been able to take to some evacuation shelters, some who stayed in their residences told ABC News ahead of the storm.

A 41-year-old mother and her 7-month-old son were killed in Wilmington, North Carolina when a tree fell on their home, officials said. The woman’s husband was injured in the incident and taken to a nearby hospital, according to police.
There have been reported deaths in Wayne, Lenoir & Cumberland Counties.
Those of us on the outside looking in might question, why these people didn’t heed the warning and leave when they were they were advised to.
So many answers; but the most are that they have been through that before and already know the in’s and out’s and what they should do to remain safe.
Sad as it sounds, but people grow increasingly attached to their belongings and no matter what, don’t want to part with them nor leave them behind, not even in cases of emergencies.

Florence isn’t the first hurricane and certainly won’t be the last. In the event there is another one, hopefully, residents will take measures to evacuate in a timely manner as to not only put their lives in jeopardy but the lives of their pets and first responders rescuing them.

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Teens & Suicide

“There is no greater tragedy than the death of a young person!”  With that being said, it leaves us to wonder why so many young people are taking their own lives? This same question has come up before in conversation between myself and other adults and some of the answers were quite shocking.  I have been told that these teenagers today have nothing to worry about, they have the internet, laptops, their own vehicles, cell phones, bank accounts, credit cards, access to shopping, traveling, video games and more selections of television shows and movies that those of our generation or before, so what do they have to worry about?

What teenagers have to worry about:  Many teenagers are not growing up in households where they have access to the luxuries listed above.  There are so many teenagers growing up in households where there’s substance abuse, physical abuse, as well as verbal abuse.  Hidden in the shadows are children who don’t have clean clothes to wear, enough food to eat, who are being cyber bullied or bullied at school, their neighborhood or even in their own household.  Being a teenager is not easy, their hormones are all over the place, they are trying to find themselves and their place in this world and with the gang activity in schools and / or neighborhoods, it places an extra burden on a teen, besides, peer pressure can be something many teens just cannot handle and are afraid of talking to their parents or school counselors about any of it.  Sadly it has gotten to the point that when this sort of thing happens, people read it in the news and it’s just like another random story. Even reading an article about the suicides in California, one mother ask her son what happened at school and he said suicide just like it was nothing.  It has happened so much and teens have had to see so much in their reality as well as the video games, movies and violent music videos they listen to.  They are young and impressionable.  “Sadly, many have grown Numb & Disconnected!”

The California students had attended Rancho Cucamonga High, Etiwanda High, and Alta Loma High which are in the Chaffey Joint Union High School district.  The fourth student attended Victoria Groves Elementary School.  He was only 10 years old. “None of these students attended the same schools,” said San Bernardino Sheriff Department Public Information Officer Cindy Bachman. “And there’s no indication that these students even knew each other.”

There have been past incidents of students making a suicide pact with one another.

March 12, 1987By New York Times:

BERGENFIELD, N.J. —

Four teenagers — two sisters and two young men — killed
themselves together Wednesday in a suicide pact, authorities said. The victims were found at about 6:30 a.m., seated in a car with its engine running in a garage at an apartment complex where teenagers often gather at night to socialize and drink. {Excerpt taken from the Orlando Sentinel}

 

This is something that has been going on for a long time and is only getting worse. There has to be more done to try to prevent these types of tragedies, but what can be done if there are no signs?

“The district has rallied around the families, students and staff to provide support and resources during this difficult time. We will continue to provide multi-tiered systems of support for all of our students throughout the year.” 
If you or someone you know is in emotional distress or considering suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

 

 

When we Grieve the Death of a Celebrity

When someone we’ve admired dies, it is a normal human emotion to grieve.  If that person is a celebrity and we have admired them from afar, it is still the same as losing a loved one.  We still mourn and grieve.

There have been so many celebrities throughout the years who’s deaths have made such an impact on the fans who admired and respected them.  Is this normal behavior?  You bet it is and according to many psychiatrists.

We experience so many emotions, that it would only make sense that grief would be one those emotions as well.  We grieve the loss of loved ones whom we know and we grieve the loss of celebrities that we’ve never met because we like them, we love their acting, their singing, or whatever their career may be, we admire the contributions they have made to their communities.

By connecting with other fans via social media, each can share their feelings and talk to others as a way of healing.  According to Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. with the Center for Loss & Life Transition, the more we feel connected to someone famous, the more likely we are to experience grief when they die.

I am inserting a link to Dr. Wolfelt’s site for all to read.

https://www.centerforloss.com/2017/01/grieving-death-celebrity/