Teens & Suicide

“There is no greater tragedy than the death of a young person!”  With that being said, it leaves us to wonder why so many young people are taking their own lives? This same question has come up before in conversation between myself and other adults and some of the answers were quite shocking.  I have been told that these teenagers today have nothing to worry about, they have the internet, laptops, their own vehicles, cell phones, bank accounts, credit cards, access to shopping, traveling, video games and more selections of television shows and movies that those of our generation or before, so what do they have to worry about?

What teenagers have to worry about:  Many teenagers are not growing up in households where they have access to the luxuries listed above.  There are so many teenagers growing up in households where there’s substance abuse, physical abuse, as well as verbal abuse.  Hidden in the shadows are children who don’t have clean clothes to wear, enough food to eat, who are being cyber bullied or bullied at school, their neighborhood or even in their own household.  Being a teenager is not easy, their hormones are all over the place, they are trying to find themselves and their place in this world and with the gang activity in schools and / or neighborhoods, it places an extra burden on a teen, besides, peer pressure can be something many teens just cannot handle and are afraid of talking to their parents or school counselors about any of it.  Sadly it has gotten to the point that when this sort of thing happens, people read it in the news and it’s just like another random story. Even reading an article about the suicides in California, one mother ask her son what happened at school and he said suicide just like it was nothing.  It has happened so much and teens have had to see so much in their reality as well as the video games, movies and violent music videos they listen to.  They are young and impressionable.  “Sadly, many have grown Numb & Disconnected!”

The California students had attended Rancho Cucamonga High, Etiwanda High, and Alta Loma High which are in the Chaffey Joint Union High School district.  The fourth student attended Victoria Groves Elementary School.  He was only 10 years old. “None of these students attended the same schools,” said San Bernardino Sheriff Department Public Information Officer Cindy Bachman. “And there’s no indication that these students even knew each other.”

There have been past incidents of students making a suicide pact with one another.

March 12, 1987By New York Times:

BERGENFIELD, N.J. —

Four teenagers — two sisters and two young men — killed
themselves together Wednesday in a suicide pact, authorities said. The victims were found at about 6:30 a.m., seated in a car with its engine running in a garage at an apartment complex where teenagers often gather at night to socialize and drink. {Excerpt taken from the Orlando Sentinel}

 

This is something that has been going on for a long time and is only getting worse. There has to be more done to try to prevent these types of tragedies, but what can be done if there are no signs?

“The district has rallied around the families, students and staff to provide support and resources during this difficult time. We will continue to provide multi-tiered systems of support for all of our students throughout the year.” 
If you or someone you know is in emotional distress or considering suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

 

 

Aretha Franklin – The Death of the Queen of Soul

ARETHA FRANKLIN

After hearing the news of Aretha Franklin’s passing, I was among the many thousands of  people truly saddened. I like many who loved her music, spirit, strength & soulful voice find comfort in knowing she is now at peace and in a much better place filled with beauty, love and no longer in pain.
Aretha is one of the talented singers that I grew up listening to and was inspired by. She with her strong, harmonious voice knew how to reach deep inside the depths of her soul and pull out the many feelings each of us may have been feeling at the time we sat and listened to her songs.
Franklin was born in Memphis on March 25, 1942. Her family moved to Detroit when she was 5 years old, and her mother, Barbara, died shortly before Franklin’s 10th birthday
She was strong and managed to triumph and carry on after the death of her father; Clarence LaVaughn “C. L.” Franklin. Mr. Franklin was a preacher at Detroit’s New Bethel Baptist Church where Aretha sang in the choir in her younger years.

CHILDREN: Edward FranklinClarence FranklinKecalf Cunningham & Ted White Jr.

SPOUSES: Glynn Turman (m. 1978-1984)Ted White (m. 1961-1969)

Glynn Turman, who was married to Franklin from 1978 to 1984, was joined by Stevie Wonder for a visit Tuesday. The actor said his former wife was ‘strong until the very end’ before her death that left millions of fans devastated all over the world.

Women fell in love with the songs RESPECT and the song became an anthem for women everywhere.  Natural Woman made women feel as though their natural beauty could shine through and they didn’t have to be afraid to show it. You could always leave it to Aretha to challenge what one may have thought of as the Norm and give us much style,  grace, beauty, strength & courage. Although her life was not always easy, she still gave us the chills with her dynamite voice and her way of bringing a song, making it her own and leaving the audience captivated.  Her special gift  was more about wringing profound emotion from a song lyric than about vocal gymnastics!

Aretha Franklin’s family has publicly  emphasized that the singer’s funeral is a private event. While some public seating may ultimately become available for the Aug. 31 service at Greater Grace Temple, the family’s guest list is still coming together. For now, the plan remains limited to “family, friends and invited guests,” said family spokeswoman Gwendolyn Quinn.

The funeral is expected to draw many big-name entertainers and dignitaries, as Franklin is laid to rest following her death last Thursday.

A public viewing will be held Aug. 28-29 at the Charles H. Wright Museum of African American History, 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. each day.

We will all surely miss this great woman and are so thankful and grateful to her for sharing her beautiful voice & spirit with each of us!

When we Grieve the Death of a Celebrity

When someone we’ve admired dies, it is a normal human emotion to grieve.  If that person is a celebrity and we have admired them from afar, it is still the same as losing a loved one.  We still mourn and grieve.

There have been so many celebrities throughout the years who’s deaths have made such an impact on the fans who admired and respected them.  Is this normal behavior?  You bet it is and according to many psychiatrists.

We experience so many emotions, that it would only make sense that grief would be one those emotions as well.  We grieve the loss of loved ones whom we know and we grieve the loss of celebrities that we’ve never met because we like them, we love their acting, their singing, or whatever their career may be, we admire the contributions they have made to their communities.

By connecting with other fans via social media, each can share their feelings and talk to others as a way of healing.  According to Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. with the Center for Loss & Life Transition, the more we feel connected to someone famous, the more likely we are to experience grief when they die.

I am inserting a link to Dr. Wolfelt’s site for all to read.

https://www.centerforloss.com/2017/01/grieving-death-celebrity/

Still in Love With You

This incredibly beautiful song speaks volumes of what Phil Lynott must have been feeling at the time he sat and wrote these lyrics.  Phil was an incredibly strong lyricist as well as singer and bassist.  Reading through the song lyrics and listening and watching as he sings this song, my heart bleeds with every word. He truly was a genius, phenomenal song writer and great musician.  Thin Lizzy will always be my favorite rock band and Phil Lynott will always be my favorite singer!

This song is on their album Nightlife which was released November 8, 1974.

Still in love with you

I think I’ll fall to pieces
If I don’t find something else to do
This sadness never ceases
I’m still in love with you

My head it keeps on reeling
It’s got me in a crazy spin
But, darling, darling, darling
Is this the end?

I’m still in love with you

They say time has a way of healing
Dries all the tears from your eyes
But, darling, it’s this empty feeling
My heart can’t disguise

After all that we’ve been through
I try my best but it’s no use
I guess I’ll keep on loving you
Is this the end?

Now that it’s all over
Woman, there’s something I think you should know
Baby, baby, think it over
Just one time before you go Call on me, baby
If there’s anything I can do for you
Call on me, baby
Help me see it through

Call on me, baby
Why don’t you call on me, baby
Oh help me see it through
I’m in love with you

Written by: Phillip Parris Lynott